Affair Recovery Therapy NYC & CT | Betrayal Trauma Treatment

Couples Trauma Specialist

Certified Gottman Therapist

EMDR Certified Clinician

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Certified Gottman Therapist

EMDR Certified Clinician

Couples Trauma Specialist

Amazon Bestselling Author

Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Certified Gottman Therapist

Couples Trauma Specialist

You can't stop replaying it in your head.

The images. The timeline. The lies. Every time you close your eyes, you see it. Every time your phone buzzes, your heart races. You check their location. You check their texts. You know it's making you look "crazy"—but you can't not look.

Here's what you need to hear:

Betrayed partners: Your obsessive thoughts, your panic attacks, your inability to sleep—that's not weakness. That's trauma. Your brain is trying to make sense of a threat it didn't see coming. These are recognized symptoms of betrayal trauma—and they're treatable.

Unfaithful partners: Your defensiveness, your minimizing, your "I said I'm sorry, what more do you want?"—that's not helping. Rebuilding trust is a process, not a one-time apology. You need a roadmap.

That roadmap exists — and it's what this work is built around. Whether you're trying to save your marriage or end it with dignity, you deserve better than the agony you're in right now.

Call: (914) 499-0631

The Numbers Speak

1,135

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Couples

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Years Specializing in Trauma

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Licensed in 14 States + DC

Intrusive thoughts

Your obsessive thoughts, your panic attacks, your inability to sleep

Physical symptom

nausea, chest tightness, panic attacks

What you're experiencing has a name: betrayal trauma. It's real, it's recognized, and it responds to the right treatment.

Emotional flooding

Rage, panic, sobbing that comes out of nowhere

Hypervigilance

Checking phones, tracking locations, interrogating

Sleep disturbances

difficulty falling asleep or waking in early morning hours

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Ongoing contact with the affair partner

If they won't cut ties, they're not ready to rebuild

No genuine remorse

If they're still attributing the affair to your behavior, genuine rebuilding is unlikely without significant individual work first.

Multiple affairs

Serial cheating is a pattern, not a mistake

Abuse

Emotional, physical, or financial abuse alongside infidelity are signs that leaving may be the safest path forward.

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let each other go. If you're not sure whether to stay or leave, therapy can help you decide with clarity instead of chaos. That's a win either way.

Call: (914) 499-0631

EMDR for Betrayal Trauma When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough

If you're the betrayed partner and you can't stop the intrusive images—the affair replaying like a movie you can't turn off—EMDR can help

What it treats:

Discovery day flashbacks

Intrusive images of the affair

Physical panic responses

Triggers (smells, songs, places that send you spiraling)

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Here's what NOT to do:

"I said I'm sorry—what more do you want?"

"It didn't mean anything."

"You're obsessed—you need to let this go."

"Well, you weren't giving me enough[sex/attention/respect]."

"I can't talk to you when you're like this."

Here's what DOES help:

Full transparency (passwords, location, answering questions without sighing)

Sitting with their pain (even when it's the 47th time they're crying about it)

Taking responsibility (no "but," no defending, no excuses)

Consistency (showing up every day, even when they push you away)

Patience (this will take longer than you think)

Your shame is not their problem to manage. Individual therapy can give you a space to process your guilt—separate from the person you hurt.

Call: (914) 499-0631

🧠 Physical affairs

Physical affairs from one-night stand to prolonged relationship that involves deep emotional and physical connections.

💔 Emotional affairs

We were just friends—but you were getting needs met outside the marriage.

🛡️ Cyber infidelity

Sexting, OnlyFans, dating apps, emotional affairs on social media

💼 Workplace affairs

Engaging in a relationship with a coworker, boss or client.

🚫 Affairs with exes

often begin with seemingly innocent interactions, such as reconnecting on social media.

🚩 Serial affairs

Characterized by a repeated pattern of infidelity, where the unfaithful partner engages in multiple affairs over time

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D.R

New York

When we found Dr. Cammy, my boyfriend and I could not have a conversation without fighting. We had both cheated on each other, which caused a lot of built up resentments. Dr. Cammy had this special way of melting away our anger so we could actually communicate. She also did check-ins between sessions to make sure we were on track with our goals

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M.D

California

My girlfriend and I were not happy with our sex life, but didn’t know where to turn for help. Dr. Cammy helped us build-up our sex life. She also worked with both me and my girlfriend individually on childhood issues that made sex difficult. Dr. Cammy really listened to us and I could tell she cared about our relationship

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O.W

New York

Dr. Cammy helped my wife and I recover after I had an affair. I thought I had ruined our marriage, but Dr. Cammy brought us to an even healthier place in our relationship.

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S.P

California

We had tried four couples therapists before meeting Dr. Cammy. It seemed like other therapists just watched us while we argued, which only made things worse. Dr. Cammy took control of the process by structuring sessions and teaching us exactly what we needed to do to fix our communication issues. It was a relief to finally meet a therapist who knew what they were doing...

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E.N

California

Rebuilding trust after a huge betrayal felt impossible. Dr. Cammy kept the faith when we were both so hopeless. Dr. Cammy is the most genuine person you will ever meet. She went out of her way for us at every turn. We are in a completely different place in our marriage now.

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C.S

California

When my wife and I met Dr. Cammy, we were at rock bottom and both of us had secured divorce lawyers. We decided to do one last ditch effort with therapy. By the end of the intake, Dr. Cammy figured out our main issues and had a plan to fix our marriage. We met with her for six months and it is like we are in a new relationship. It was so clear Dr. Cammy cared about us. She would not rest till we were in a better place.

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Ready to Talk?

The first step is just a conversation. Reach out directly to talk through what you're navigating and whether Dr. Cammy's approach is the right fit for you.

Dr. Cammy is licensed in New York and Connecticut.
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I'm Dr. Cammy. I started Bliss in Being after more than a decade of helping couples and individuals navigate trauma, PTSD, and the painful moments that can reshape a relationship. This work is personal to me—and I bring that to every session

You're Not Crazy. You're Traumatized.