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Call: (914) 499-0631
Call: (914) 499-0631
Maybe you're walking on eggshells, terrified one wrong word will set off an explosion. Maybe you've shut down completely—it's easier to say nothing than risk another argument. Or maybe you're roommates who co-parent, but the friendship and intimacy are gone.
You love each other, but you're not sure that's enough anymore.
Here's what I know: You didn't get here overnight. And you won't fix it with a date night or a weekend getaway.
But it can get better — with the right tools, a structured approach, and a therapist trained to use them.
Couples
Years Specializing in Trauma
Licensed in 14 States + DC
Most couples therapy is guesswork. Gottman therapy isn't.
Dr. John Gottman spent 40 years observing thousands of couples in his "Love Lab"—video recording them, measuring their stress responses, and tracking their outcomes.
In his research, Dr. Gottman found he could predict with 94% accuracy which couples would divorce — based solely on how they communicate.
The Gottman Method focuses on:
Gottman therapy is structured, skills-based, and goal-oriented — every session has a clear purpose.
over and over (money, parenting, sex, in-laws)—and nothing ever gets resolved
You're business partners managing logistics, but the emotional connection is gone
Trying to decide if you should stay or go (or staying but not knowing how to rebuild trust)
Walking on eggshells, afraid to rock the boat, resentment building underneath
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NYC finance, law, medicine professionals, where work stress bleeds into home life
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You're engaged and want to build a strong foundation before problems start
Criticism attacks your partner's character, not just their behavior. It makes them feel fundamentally flawed.
Gentle startup. Instead of "You never help with the kids," try "I'm overwhelmed with bedtime. Can we split it differently?"
Contempt is the #1 predictor of divorce. It communicates, "You're beneath me. I have no respect for you."
Build a culture of appreciation. Actively notice what your partner does right—and say it out loud.
Defensiveness is a form of blame in disguise. It signals to your partner that you won't take responsibility — which shuts down any chance of resolution and keeps the conflict escalating.
Take ownership of even a small part of the issue. Instead of "I wouldn't have yelled if you hadn't pushed me," try "You're right that I raised my voice — that wasn't okay."
Your partner feels abandoned. Stonewalling says, "You're not worth engaging with."
Take a real break when you're flooded (heart rate over 100 bpm), self-soothe for 20+ minutes, then come back and finish the conversation.
Gottman therapy follows a clear structure:
We start with the Gottman Relationship Checkup. that identifies your strengths and challenges. Then I meet with you together for an oral history interview
I present what I've learned—your relationship's strengths, areas for growth, and the specific patterns keeping you stuck.
Together, we create a roadmap: You'll know exactly where you are in the process. Measurable progress. Breakthrough moments in 3–6 months. Expert guidance every step.
I'm Dr. Cammy—trauma therapist, Gottman-certified couples specialist, and bestselling author. I've helped 1,000+ couples navigate their most painful moments and find their way back to each other.
If you have a question that isn’t covered here, feel free to Contact Us directly.
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I'm Dr. Cammy. I started Bliss in Being after more than a decade of helping couples and individuals navigate trauma, PTSD, and the painful moments that can reshape a relationship. This work is personal to me—and I bring that to every session
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