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Couples Trauma Specialist

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EMDR Certified Clinician

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Certified Gottman Therapist

EMDR Certified Clinician

Couples Trauma Specialist

Amazon Bestselling Author

Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Certified Gottman Therapist

Couples Trauma Specialist

The flashbacks won't stop.

Maybe it's your partner's affair—replaying on a loop you can't
turn off. Maybe it's something from your childhood that still
ambushes you in quiet moments. Maybe it's October 7th, and the grief and fear have never fully lifted.
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You've tried talking about it. Analyzing it. Pushing it down. Nothing sticks.

Here's why: Trauma doesn't live in your mind. It lives in your nervous system—your body, your reactions, your automatic responses. You can't think your way out of it.

You have to reprocess it at the source. That's what EMDR is designed to do.

Call: (914) 499-0631

The Numbers Speak

1,135

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Couples

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Years Specializing in Trauma

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Licensed in 14 States + DC

What Is EMDR? (And Why It Works When Nothing
Else Has)

EMDR—Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing—is one of the most researched trauma therapies in the world.

Endorsed by the World Health Organization, the American Psychological Association, and the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs.

Here's why it works:

Your brain has a built-in healing system. Under normal circumstances, it processes difficult experiences and files them as "the past."

The memory gets frozen—stuck in the moment it happened, still firing as though the threat is happening right now. That's why you flinch at a song. Panic when they're late. Can't sleep without seeing it again.

Using bilateral stimulation—eye movements, tapping, or tones—EMDR helps your brain finally metabolize what got stuck. The memory doesn't disappear. But it stops feeling like it's happening now.

EMDR is one of the most extensively researched trauma therapies in the world — and research consistently shows it can move trauma faster than talk therapy alone.

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CPTSD often comes from:

Childhood abuse, neglect, or emotional unavailability

Betrayal trauma—a partner's affair or repeated lies

Domestic violence or controlling relationships

Jewish intergenerational trauma (Holocaust, generational displacement)

October 7th and the weight of ongoing antisemitism

Sexual assault or abuse

Any relationship where you were repeatedly hurt, betrayed, or made to feel unsafe

How it shows up in your life:

Emotional flashbacks—rage or panic that hits out of nowhere, with no clear trigger

Hypervigilance—always braced for the next hit, unable to truly relax

Trust collapse—assuming everyone will hurt or leave you, even when they haven't

Intimacy avoidance — keeping people just far enough away to stay "safe"

Intrusive thoughts — images, replays, "what ifs" that hijack your focus

Physical symptoms — panic attacks, insomnia, chronic tension, digestive issues

These aren't character flaws. They're adaptations.

If this sounds like you, it's worth talking through whether EMDR might be a good fit—no pressure, no judgment.

Call: (914) 499-0631

Betrayal trauma

You found out. And now you can't un-know it. The images replay. You check their phone. Your heart spikes every time they're 10 minutes late. You're exhausted from being inside your own head.

EMDR targets the exact memories that keep hijacking you:

The moment of discovery

The intrusive images you can't stop seeing

The specific triggers—songs, places, timestamps

The body panic that hits before your brain even
catches up

Many clients begin to feel meaningful shifts within the first several sessions.

Childhood trauma

Abuse. Neglect. A parent who raged or disappeared emotionally. You thought you'd dealt with it. But it shows up in your relationships—trust issues, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown.

Recurring relational patterns

People-pleasing & loss of self

Emotional shutdown & numbness

Inner critic from a parent's voice

EMDR helps your adult brain process what your child brain survived but couldn't yet understand.

Jewish trauma

October 7th isn't "just" a news event—it's personal. The hostages. The protests. Feeling hunted on campus, at work, in your own neighborhood. You're not overreacting.

EMDR addresses:

Acute shock and grief from October 7th

Vicarious trauma from ongoing war coverage

Nervous system hyperactivation from antisemitism

Intergenerational trauma passed through your
family's history

You are not overreacting. What you're experiencing is real — and it responds to the right treatment.

Other trauma I treat

EMDR works for any memory your nervous system hasn't been able to file as "the past." If you've lived through it and it still owns you, it may be something EMDR can address.

Sexual assault or abuse

Medical trauma (surgery, birth)

Previous relationship trauma

Witnessing violence & traumatic loss

Not sure if your story fits? Let's talk through it.

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🧠 Mental

Intrusive thoughts that won't stop

Flashbacks of the trauma replaying

Hypervigilance—always waiting for the next hit

💔 Emotional

Sudden rage or panic out of nowhere

Emotional numbness or shutdown

Feeling detached from your own life

🫀 Physical

Nausea & chest tightness

Panic attacks

Difficulty falling asleep or waking at 3am

Chronic fatigue or body tension

"What you're experiencing has a name—and it's not weakness. Not all trauma comes from war or car accidents. Some come from the person you trusted most. Your symptoms are your nervous system trying to protect you." — Dr. Cammy

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EMDR

Traditional talk therapy

How it processes trauma

Through the nervous system, bilaterally

Through words and narrative

Typical timeline

Often 8–12 sessions per memory

Months to years

How much you have to share

You control how much you disclose

Detailed storytelling expected

Primary focus

Reprocessing stuck memories

Insight & understanding

Best for

Specific traumatic events that won't fade

Ongoing support, life navigation

Both have a place. We often weave EMDR into ongoing relational work. You don't have to choose one approach forever.

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Virtual EMDR: Effective From Wherever You Are

Research suggests virtual EMDR is just as effective as in-person. I guide your eyes across the screen or use tapping prompts and audio tones. You stay in your own safe space—your couch, your robe, and your dog at your feet.

No commute—you're already spending enough time on Metro-North or in Midtown traffic

Complete privacy—no waiting rooms, no risk of running into someone you know in a small-town therapy office

Your own space —processing trauma is often easier when you're in an environment you control

Flexible scheduling —early morning, evening, and weekend sessions available around demanding professional schedules

That's it. No downloads, no special software. I use a HIPAA-compliant platform—I'll send you the link before your first session.

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Scenario A—After infidelity

The betrayed partner needs EMDR for discovery-day trauma. The unfaithful partner needs couples' work to rebuild trust and transparency.

Scenario B—Childhood trauma

One partner's childhood abuse is driving adult patterns—distrust, shutdown, people-pleasing. EMDR heals the wound, couples therapy rebuilds the connection.

Cultural or collective trauma + a partner who "doesn't get it

Grief and fear from your community's history or intergenerational trauma overwhelm you. Your partner, who doesn't share this background, struggles to understand. EMDR helps regulate your system, while couples therapy bridges your experiences.

Scenario D—Abuse

Emotional, physical, or financial abuse alongside infidelity are signs that leaving may be the safest path forward.

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let each other go. If you're not sure whether to stay or leave, therapy can help you decide with clarity instead of chaos. That's a win either way.

Call: (914) 499-0631

D.R

New York

When we found Dr. Cammy, my boyfriend and I could not have a conversation without fighting. We had both cheated on each other, which caused a lot of built up resentments. Dr. Cammy had this special way of melting away our anger so we could actually communicate. She also did check-ins between sessions to make sure we were on track with our goals

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M.D

California

My girlfriend and I were not happy with our sex life, but didn’t know where to turn for help. Dr. Cammy helped us build-up our sex life. She also worked with both me and my girlfriend individually on childhood issues that made sex difficult. Dr. Cammy really listened to us and I could tell she cared about our relationship

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O.W

New York

Dr. Cammy helped my wife and I recover after I had an affair. I thought I had ruined our marriage, but Dr. Cammy brought us to an even healthier place in our relationship.

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S.P

California

We had tried four couples therapists before meeting Dr. Cammy. It seemed like other therapists just watched us while we argued, which only made things worse. Dr. Cammy took control of the process by structuring sessions and teaching us exactly what we needed to do to fix our communication issues. It was a relief to finally meet a therapist who knew what they were doing...

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E.N

California

Rebuilding trust after a huge betrayal felt impossible. Dr. Cammy kept the faith when we were both so hopeless. Dr. Cammy is the most genuine person you will ever meet. She went out of her way for us at every turn. We are in a completely different place in our marriage now.

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C.S

California

When my wife and I met Dr. Cammy, we were at rock bottom and both of us had secured divorce lawyers. We decided to do one last ditch effort with therapy. By the end of the intake, Dr. Cammy figured out our main issues and had a plan to fix our marriage. We met with her for six months and it is like we are in a new relationship. It was so clear Dr. Cammy cared about us. She would not rest till we were in a better place.

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If you have a question that isn’t covered here, feel free to Contact Us directly.

Ready to Talk?

The first step is just a conversation. Reach out directly to talk through what you're navigating and whether Dr. Cammy's approach is the right fit for you.

Dr. Cammy is licensed in New York and Connecticut.
Ready to talk? Text or call to get started.

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I'm Dr. Cammy. I started Bliss in Being after more than a decade of helping couples and individuals navigate trauma, PTSD, and the painful moments that can reshape a relationship. This work is personal to me—and I bring that to every session

The Trauma Keeps Replaying. EMDR Can Stop It.